Allyship: How to Help Someone Who Gets Their Period at School

If you ever notice a friend, classmate, or even someone you don’t know having a period accident or feeling panicked about their period, how you respond matters. A kind moment can turn a stressful situation into one where someone feels safe and supported. Here’s how to help, without making things feel awkward.

Be Discreet and Kind

If you notice something, avoid calling attention to it in front of others. You might quietly say:

• “Hey, just letting you know that I think you might need a pad.”

• “Do you want to borrow my jumper?”

• “I’ve got supplies if you need them.”

A calm, quiet approach protects their dignity and helps them feel less exposed.

Share What You Have (If You Can)

If you carry period products, offering one can make a huge difference. Even saying:

“I don’t have much, but you’re welcome to take this.”

is incredibly supportive.

If you don’t have supplies, helping them find a school nurse, wellbeing space, or trusted teacher is just as valuable.

Walk With Them (If They Want)

Sometimes the hardest part is walking alone. You can offer:

• “Do you want me to come with you?”

• “I can wait outside.”

Presence matters and letting them choose respects their comfort.

Keep It Private

What happens stays between you. Don’t:

• Tell others

• Laugh about it later

• Share it as a “story”

  
  

Confidentiality builds trust and helps reduce shame.

Normalise It

If they seem embarrassed, gentle reassurance can help:

• “This happens to everyone.”

• “Periods are unpredictable, it’s not your fault.”

• “You handled that really well.”

You don’t need to overdo it, just enough to remind them they’re not alone.

If You’re a Teacher, Staff Member, or Support Person

Your response sets the tone.Helpful actions include:

• Offering products without making a big deal

• Providing access to spare uniforms or underwear if available

• Allowing time to clean up without penalty

• Using neutral, respectful language

A calm adult response can shape how a young person remembers that moment forever.

Being a Period Ally Matters

You don’t need to menstruate to be supportive.You just need empathy. Helping someone during a vulnerable moment:

• Reduces shame

• Builds trust

• Creates safer school environments

• Normalises periods for everyone

Small actions make big differences.